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This is Me

This is me, on an average day. No filter, no staging, no makeup, nothing artificial, just me.

Since the Myspace days I have always been quite a bit of a social media butterfly… posting, liking, loving, sharing on all social sites. I’ve always enjoyed being able to keep up with old friends and see all the fun adventures that they embark on from the convenience of my phone or computer. Within the last year, I’ve noticed a dramatic shift in profiles to be a lot more unrealistic, staged, filtered, and edited with the perfect level of aperture. Honestly, I miss the days when the most edited photos were the ones with frames, an instagram filter, and using the radial tilt shift to try and get that perfect blurry background. Which was almost always never perfect. As I have noticed this change in social media I have found myself on it less and less. Not wanting to post and not really interacting with others.

Coming into this new year I decided that fake must go so I unfollowed quite a few profiles and pages who just weren’t giving me what I wanted. As I’ve started this journey of creating the best version of myself and setting mindful intentions I’m trying to make my life a lot more organic, fun, easy and truthful. You don’t like what you see, unfollow me! Lol. Seriously though, I’m not on social media to see how many followers I can get or show off a picture that took hours of editing or an hour of staging to get just right, I’m there to connect and enjoy.

This year I’m hoping that I have so much fun living in the moments and memories that I’m making that I forget to reach for my phone, I forget to stop having conversations with the people in front of me so I can post a picture. I guess you can say that is also one of this years intentions, Less Screen time, more Meaningful time. Not saying I’m never going to take a picture again, just hoping to capture the best candids and fun moments.

As we move deeper in to this year I challenge you be true to yourself, live organically, don’t live for the likes, and dare to be different than the rest.

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Setting Intentions

I have never been much of a resolution maker, I’ve always viewed them negatively, saw them as bad habits people have or things people don’t like about themselves that they want to try and fix overnight and usually fail at in the first month. Why would I want to make a resolution that isn’t going to actually change?

Over the last 3 years I have personally struggled with life balance. It seems like I can be great at two things but never three or more. Having a clean house, daily exercise, family time, or self- care.

How do I do it all?

Because it has been an ongoing struggle, I decided towards the end of last year that I had to set some intentions for myself. What is most important and how can I actually accomplish all the things I want to balance in my life on top of working full time, being a good wife and momming my 2 and 3 year old.

This Christmas I was gifted a beautiful self guided journal about Grace and man oh man, this thing has been spot on in helping me be mindful about the intentions I set and how to frame my outlook on things. This last week it asked a simple question “How are you? Seriously…” As I sat there assessing my feelings to that question I realized I actually feel AMAZING, I truly had only great things to say and for the first time in a long time I realized I have balance.

So what were these intentions I set for myself? Well… first I committed to a 30 day Yoga practice called Dedicate. Although I love going to a yoga studio for the full experience, at home yoga can be just as great. I wake up early every morning to have a quiet, peaceful, house and enjoy my ‘Yoga With Adriene’. Starting my day with Yoga typically makes for a positive day. On top of my daily yoga I’ve committed to making better eating choices, bringing my lunch to work daily, no soda, and less dessert.

A big one on my intentions list is scheduling ME Time but most importantly accepting it no matter how big or small. Some days it’s a quiet, uninterrupted shower, or my scheduled yoga time. Others I fit in some reading time, blogging or journaling and at least once a month I schedule a Mani/pedi. I signed up for a Monthly membership at BellaBar my favorite eco-friendly, non toxic nail salon to make it a point to get in once a month and enjoy some quiet relaxation time for myself.

Even more importantly over me time is US time! Who would have thought that having a simple conversation with your husband would be so difficult once you have kids but while they are awake it’s nearly impossible to have any sort of completed conversation. Date Nights and getting alone time with my husband to reconnect and deepen our relationship is a must. Whether it is an actual night out or a planned night in, after the kids are in bed scheduling a date night has to happen and we are off to a great start for the month with 3 date nights in the books!

I strive for making memories with my husband and kids but at times it’s hard to get out of the house or the cost of going somewhere just isn’t feasible. So I’ve decided that I’m ok with simply enjoying the moments we are all together. Whether it is dinner time, tv time, or bath time the most important thing for me to feel like it was an accomplishing day is simply asking myself did we all laugh together today?

I have set these intentions with the ultimate goal of finding joy in the little things and enjoying life daily because we only have one life to live so why not make the best of it.

I end this with a Mantra I say when I feel down or feel myself struggling with the balance…I will hold myself to a standard of Grace, not perfection!

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New Year already?!?

Is 11 days late too late to say HAPPY NEW YEAR? Well, either way, Happy 2019! Geez…2019, two thousand nineteen, Twenty-Nineteen… still trying to wrap my head around that. I’m pretty sure I’m still stuck in 2007 ready to celebrate my 21st birthday and live up this freedom (cue the club music and line up the shots)

Maybe I should back up a little… I think I need to start out with a quick apology. Last year I was so excited about starting a blog I never thought how much time actually goes into it. Bringing myself to reality where it is definitely is not 2007, I’m now 32 and 9pm is the new midnight, I am Married to an amazing husband, have 2 beautiful (but oh so needy) toddlers, a full time job,  always making time for working out and let’s not forget about also trying to squeeze in some much needed self-care here and there. Taking time to sit down and write a blog post kind of fell far down on my to-do list. So I’m sorry if you were expecting something amazing and didn’t get it. I was a little let down myself, but here I am coming at it again with a fresh mind set, hoping not to bore you and ready to give this place a little more attention😊

I’ve set a lot of great intentions for myself this year and I’m going to try with all I’ve got to make my dreams a lifestyle that come effortlessly not something that I’m trying to force. Interested in what I’m working on for myself? Stay tuned on my next blog.

Are you a resolution setter or just a go getter?

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When the Weekend High is Gone…

To say that I had a great weekend would be an understatement. My weekend was absolutely perfect! The balance of adulting time, mom time, and family time was one of the best it has been in a LONG time. I’ll be honest, I was expecting a pretty hectic weekend since my husband was out of town on a fishing trip, enjoying his much needed guy time, but some how the stars aligned for a weekend that felt almost magical.

Prior to the weekend arriving, I already knew one part would be great, my bestie was coming to town on Saturday and spending the night!!! Girls Night!!! As excited as I was, I knew that I’d have to split my time with her with my kids. Both of my kids absolutely love her and she loves them but sometimes I just want to talk endlessly UNINTERRUPTED and enjoy some girl time.  Prior to her arrival, I took the kids to go visit grandma for a little bit and magically she offered to watch BOTH of my kids the entire day while I go out and enjoy some quality girl time! I couldn’t pass up that offer and literally grabbed my stuff and ran out of her house (before she changed her mind), got in the car and listened to the most non kid friendly music I could the whole drive home. I’m not sure why that is, but when I’m given a little freedom I always feel like I need to blast some extremely Explicit tunes in the car. FREEDOM!!!!

Not that anyone really cares about the details of what we did, or maybe you do, I’ll save that for another time… but I have to share one part because if you are local to Orange County this place is a must to check out! If you have any sort of a sweet tooth this will be a little bit of heaven. The House of Chimney Cakes…

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Now, tell me those don’t look absolutely delicious. Maybe Chocolate Chip Cookies or Matcha aren’t your jam but I’m sure they have something for your taste! Seriously, every bite was glorious!

Good food, good company and quality time made for a great balanced weekend but man… today is tough. I mean, Monday’s are hard enough, but Monday after an amazingly perfect weekend are really tough. I miss the high I felt this weekend from great friends, delicious food and a perfect life balance. This Monday was hard a hard one but thankfully the day is almost done.

Cheers to it being almost Tuesday… that’s one day closer to Friday! 🙂

 

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Hello 2018!

Can you believe it is the beginning of a new year already? This year started out a little different than normal for us. We rang in the New Year on a vacation in Lake Tahoe. Ever since having babies (almost 3 years ago) I can, unfortunately, count the number of vacations we have taken on less than one hand. But this year, on a whim, two weeks before the year ended, I planned a little something different for us and it sure was worth it! Best part about it, we were able to bring my brother in-law and his wife, who also happens to be my best friend, with us. Talk about the makings for a fun trip.

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I’ve been contently avoiding vacations because Holden and Harper are so little and well NAP TIME holds me hostage daily and did I mention they would have to share a room to go to sleep??? Just the thought of it gave me anxiety. I wanted to enjoy a vacation not be woken up all night to my kids waking each other up or throwing sleepy tantrums all day because of missed naps.

To my surprise, nap times on a different schedule and bed time in the same room was a complete success!!!! (Tossing confetti) Because we had so much going on during the day no one was ever begging for a nap and by the time bed time came it was a breeze from all the excitement and fun we had.

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Both Kids had a blast in the snow and even went tubing all by themselves. I definitely had a mom moment when I realized my babies were having fun tubing without mom and dad… time slow down!!! We even had the opportunity to put Holden in Ski school for 2 days and our little man was a champ, he’s already begging to get some more time on the snow.

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After our trip was over and we began our 7 1/2 hour dive home, I began to reflect on how my life has changed since kids in ways both wonderful and challenging, bringing me to the creation of this blog…

Being a mom, in all its highs, is really hard at times. The constant need to be there for others, endless diapers, cooking (healthy) meals, dealing with tantrums, schedules, potty training, teaching new things, even the worries that come at the end of the night when everyone is quietly sleeping and you’re silently wondering if you’ve been a good enough mom today or what you could have done better.

On our drive home I realized  2018  was going to be a great year for me and for my family. I’ve set a few goals for myself and I’m going to share them with you:

  1. Focus on having more “me” time. I can only give my husband and kids the best version of me if I am happy, mentally rested and recharged.
  2. Dedicate more time to “us” (my husband and I). If it weren’t for our love and romance we wouldn’t have gotten married and had babies. I want my kids to grow up seeing what a happy and healthy relationship looks like. So, with Date Nights few and far between and 2 little ones taking the majority of our attention during the days, scheduled date nights are in our future  ***Send any recommendations on awesome home dates for when the kids are sleeping!!*** Or send over a free babysitter 🙂
  3. Set aside Family time – Make time to make memories in new places with our kids, even if that means messing up a nap or two a few times a month!
  4. EXERCISE – gym time, me time, recharge. I will be fully utilizing my new pass to 9Round (Which I’m sure I’ll write a blog on soon) It’s an awesome way to get out and de-stress to be able to tackle another day!

Making my number one priory about me was a hard decision and even harder to admit (I didn’t want to write it in that order because I might be judged as a bad mom) but the truth is in order for me to be the best mom I can be I have to make sure I am mentally well rested to give my husband and kids my best.

I’d love to hear all of your 2018 goals!

Patience is a virtue…

I’ll be honest, I just googled the definition of virtue. I’ve heard the saying “patience is a virtue” time and time again, heck, I even say it myself when I’m feeling flustered, but what exactly does virtue mean??? And what ever it truly means, I’m pretty sure I don’t have it 🙈


After reading that, I’ve come to the conclusion that I must not have very high moral standards or be “righteous” because, what seems like far too often, I run out of patience or realize my threshold of tolerance is REALLY low.

Where were the warnings and red flashing lights when I was thinking of having a baby that tell you what you are really about to get yourself into?? It doesn’t help that with social media we all seem to portray the best, easiest, glorified, happiest moments and not the raw truth of what goes on behind closed doors daily (🙋🏻‍♀️ guilty as charged). An actual day in the life of a parent (of a testing toddler or sleepless newborn or both!) is a little less glorious and not quite as full of unicorns and rainbows I had thought it was going to be.

Parenting is tough and we should all get an award for it and throw ourselves a little party every now and again for surviving the day-to-day! I can say, I definitely appreciate my parents a WHOLE lot more since becoming a parent myself and have made a few apologies to them for how I was when I was little (Thank you Karma for allowing me to now experience what I put my parents through 30+ years ago).

Let’s be honest for a moment… as wonderful, loving, funny and absolutely adorable as kids are, they cry.. ALOT, they throw tantrums ALOT, they test you and push your buttons ALOT. Any parent with a kid who knows the word mom has heard the infamous…Mom, mom, mom, mommy, mom, (ahhhhh.. I heard you the first 14 [Hundred] times) all while tugging at your leg or shirt, and teaching your kids to share don’t even get me started on that right now. Did I mention they cry alot? Actually, truth is, the crying probably started because you gave them the wrong color cup, put the wrong shirt on, or didn’t let them play with the kitchen knife they saw you using…  I swear kids are like a ticking time bomb and you are never 100% sure when they are going to go off.

Meet my two children, Holden and Harper.

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It is during these moments I usually begin to wonder why I had babies or how long this phase lasts. But then almost magically and what feels like just moments later, the cries stop and I hear “I luh you Mommy” or I find myself wrapped in hugs and giggles and laughs. And that’s when you remember how awesome and amazing having children is! The love and joy you get from a little human that you created and brought into this world fills your soul and the patience returns and you start all over again.

As much as I may have vented above (or just told the truth about my life), if you are a parent or have been around kids, you know what I said is true, and I’m sure you’ve found yourself feeling the same… and if you haven’t please message me with your secrets!  The days when you are tired (exhausted) and just want a little rest (aka hibernate for 2 weeks alone), but your child just wants to keep on going, or they feel like skipping their nap today, those are the hardest days but some how we make it to the next. We make it to the special moments that fill us with love and laughter.

 

The moments where your kids are getting along and loving eachother, the quiet moments together and sleepy time cuddles, the moment when you’ve had a long day at work and when you pick up your son from daycare you see that he picked a special flower just for you and hands it to you while saying I love you mommy. It’s all those little things that bring the patience back.

Above all, finding time to get out and recharge is the most important for me! Something as simple as grocery shopping alone to getting a massage or mani/pedi or catching up with some girlfriends, those are the thing that revitalize me best. I am lucky enough to have a wonderful husband that knows that I need these moments too and has never once hesitated to let me get out of the house for what ever it might be, and I am truly thankful for that.

How do you find your patience when life gets crazy? If you can’t get out of the house and you feel like you’re about to lose it what are some of your go to’s? I’d love to hear them all! I read this (photo below) in a magazine once and I will say I may have used it once or twice…

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