I have never been much of a resolution maker, I’ve always viewed them negatively, saw them as bad habits people have or things people don’t like about themselves that they want to try and fix overnight and usually fail at in the first month. Why would I want to make a resolution that isn’t going to actually change?
Over the last 3 years I have personally struggled with life balance. It seems like I can be great at two things but never three or more. Having a clean house, daily exercise, family time, or self- care.
Because it has been an ongoing struggle, I decided towards the end of last year that I had to set some intentions for myself. What is most important and how can I actually accomplish all the things I want to balance in my life on top of working full time, being a good wife and momming my 2 and 3 year old.
This Christmas I was gifted a beautiful self guided journal about Grace and man oh man, this thing has been spot on in helping me be mindful about the intentions I set and how to frame my outlook on things. This last week it asked a simple question “How are you? Seriously…” As I sat there assessing my feelings to that question I realized I actually feel AMAZING, I truly had only great things to say and for the first time in a long time I realized I have balance.
So what were these intentions I set for myself? Well… first I committed to a 30 day Yoga practice called Dedicate. Although I love going to a yoga studio for the full experience, at home yoga can be just as great. I wake up early every morning to have a quiet, peaceful, house and enjoy my ‘Yoga With Adriene’. Starting my day with Yoga typically makes for a positive day. On top of my daily yoga I’ve committed to making better eating choices, bringing my lunch to work daily, no soda, and less dessert.
A big one on my intentions list is scheduling ME Time but most importantly accepting it no matter how big or small. Some days it’s a quiet, uninterrupted shower, or my scheduled yoga time. Others I fit in some reading time, blogging or journaling and at least once a month I schedule a Mani/pedi. I signed up for a Monthly membership at BellaBar my favorite eco-friendly, non toxic nail salon to make it a point to get in once a month and enjoy some quiet relaxation time for myself.
Even more importantly over me time is US time! Who would have thought that having a simple conversation with your husband would be so difficult once you have kids but while they are awake it’s nearly impossible to have any sort of completed conversation. Date Nights and getting alone time with my husband to reconnect and deepen our relationship is a must. Whether it is an actual night out or a planned night in, after the kids are in bed scheduling a date night has to happen and we are off to a great start for the month with 3 date nights in the books!
I strive for making memories with my husband and kids but at times it’s hard to get out of the house or the cost of going somewhere just isn’t feasible. So I’ve decided that I’m ok with simply enjoying the moments we are all together. Whether it is dinner time, tv time, or bath time the most important thing for me to feel like it was an accomplishing day is simply asking myself did we all laugh together today?
I have set these intentions with the ultimate goal of finding joy in the little things and enjoying life daily because we only have one life to live so why not make the best of it.
I end this with a Mantra I say when I feel down or feel myself struggling with the balance…I will hold myself to a standard of Grace, not perfection!